Dear Working Mom, ‘Tis The Season to Preserve Your Sanity…
Dear Working Mom is our periodic love letter to working moms everywhere, where we encourage and support working moms through the issues and challenges they face.
Dear Working Mom,
You know the feeling…That tightness in your chest as the holidays approach and you mentally start adding up the litany of tasks to complete, gifts to purchase and various other obligations to attend to…The stress of getting everything done on time, from organizing the perfect Christmas to meeting all your work deadlines…You know it all too well, this nagging sensation of running a marathon without taking a break, and making it look easy and flawless in the process…They say it’s the most wonderful time of the year, but for you, it may also be the most stressful time of the year…
This year, the holiday season may look different, what with the pandemic and distress associated with it, increasing the already intense stress so many working moms feel around this time of year. Worrying about the safety of family and friends while still striving to preserve holiday traditions and somewhat of a sense of normalcy has now become the hallmark of what should be a joyous time of togetherness and celebration. This is in addition to the already heavy job loss, childcare and societal burden working moms like yourself have been saddled with as a result of the pandemic…
In spite of this onslaught of pressure, and maybe because of it, this holiday season may just be the reminder you need to put your sanity first. Maybe the stakes are so high in this season, from health to financial and human connection concerns, that they are forcing you to reconsider what you’ve been doing all along. Maybe this season is reminding you (along with all of us) that desperately attempting to control it all under the guise of apparent success is an exercise in futility after all. Instead, it may just be a loud call to preserve your sanity instead, cherish who and what truly matters, and re-invent an otherwise stress-filled time of unending errands and to-do’s into an intentional and purposeful family and personal time…
So, dear Working Mom, ‘tis the season to re-consider your holiday to-do list.
‘Tis the season to re-invent the holidays for yourself and your family.
‘Tis the season to preserve your sanity, your well-being, your joy and everything that makes you you…
Even if that means swapping perfect decorations for homemade paper ornaments crafted on the floor with the kids…
Even if that means disappointing a few people but finally approving of yourself…
Especially if that means being more present, more fulfilled, more you…
Take care!
The Corporate Sis.
Women and Career Reinvention: 7 Strategies to Reinvent Your Work At Any Age
A few years back, I had the opportunity and privilege to transition for a corporate career to an academic one. While at the time, the shift was terrifying, it proved to be one of the most fulfilling and purpose-filled experiences of my life. Through this transition, I’ve learnt the power of reinventing your career at any age, and the wealth of possibilities that come with it. I’ve also learnt, by trial and error, the strategies that can make such a move a truly empowering and successful one.
Fast-forward a few years, in the middle of a global pandemic, and many of us are re-thinking our priorities like never before. As working women and moms carry the brunt of the burden of the pandemic, both in terms of job losses and household responsibilities, it’s never been a better time to also think about reinventing our careers. As working women, the concept of career reinvention is certainly not foreign to us. As we age into the workforce, our 40’s and 50’s bring with them the constant and harsh reminder that we may no longer be welcome in positions now bestowed upon the youngest and freshest of this world. Along with ageism, working motherhood also confronts us with the tough reality of having to scale back our professional ambitions for a time, take a break from work, or even leave the workforce entirely, not to mention the stigma of being perceived as less competent in the workplace just because we are mothers.
Truth is, career reinvention is scary to many, if not most of us. Aside from threatening our sense of stability, along with our financial and social foundation, it also carries the risk of shaking us to our core, from our most innate beliefs to our perceived place in the world. As women tend to be more risk-adverse than men, they also tend to stay put longer in careers and professional environments that may not be the best fit for them, may undervalue them, and downright damage their changes at growth and advancement.
Career reinvention does not have to necessarily translate into a change of industries or jobs. As a matter of fact, it should be a constant process of self-improvement, personal development and professional mastery. Staying at the same company, or even at the same position, should not become an exercise in stalled progress. Instead, it should be a constant wake-up call to innovate, do things differently, as we incorporate all the facets of our own growth as individuals into your work.
Here are 7 strategies to re-invent your career at any age as a working woman:
- Frequently take your own career pulse
How often do you take your own career pulse? How often do you ask yourself if you’re still fulfilled at work, or if you’re falling into a rut?
Taking your career pulse at least every quarter will let you get back in touch with how you truly feel about your work. It will also inform you as to what has changed in your work dynamic, in yourself and in your environment, if anything, and what can be improved along the way.
- Re-visit your why periodically
Why do you do what you do? Is it for the money, for the passion, for the purpose of it all? Or have you not been able to put your finger on it?
Even when you’re able to pinpoint your why, it may not be what you would truly want it to be. Maybe you’ve been doing this work for a while now for the money, yet it leaves you empty every day. Or you may just not have found what fills you with a sense of purpose yet, and need to spend some time discovering it…Whatever the case may be, re-viding your why will help you put your career, and by extension your life, into the perspective needed to continue to grow and evolve as a working woman.
- Fight your own mind
Too often, our minds get in the way of making any changes, even if positive, to our lives. The simple reason behind this is that our brains are wired to protect us from any discomfort or what can appear to be a threat. This is where reinventing one’s career can also turn into an exercise in fighting our own minds.
What are the negative beliefs embedded in your mind that block you from thinking about your career in a fresher way? What mindsets are standing in your way when it comes to re-inventing your career? These are the mindset and thought patterns that you may need to fight in order to re-invent your work.
- Yes, you do need support!
Career reinvention can be a process that requires you to change the way you’ve not just been working, but also living. For some, it’s taking some time off from work, or take a lesser paying position, which may challenge the financial stability of the family unit. For others, it may be taking on more responsibilities and spending more time at work.
Whatever it may turn out to be, support will be needed, especially from your nearest and closest ones. Don’t be afraid to ask for the help you need as you go through this process. Use your village!
- Create your own reinvention plan
Everyone’s career reinvention plan and process is different. Create your own plan to re-invent your work, according to who you are, your environment, and most important priorities. Most importantly, refrain from comparing your own transition to others’, we’re all on different paths.
- But be flexible
While you may have your own plan of action when it comes to re-inventing your career, be flexible as to the methods. I had to learn to use the tools at my disposal, and be flexible as to the results and patient with outcomes. This is a marathon, not a race. It takes time to grow one’s career and transform it into its best version.
- Constantly re-define success for yourself
Last but not least, define and re-define what success truly means for you when it comes to your work. Is it more flexibility? Is it a certain type and amount of responsibilities? Is it more freedom, more money or the ability to impact people? Or is it a combination of all these?
Crafting your own definition of success is important. Re-defining it as you change as a woman, an individual and a professional is even more crucial.
All in all, career re-invention for women should no longer be seen as an option for women, but rather as a necessary and exciting prospect that is part of our evolution as individuals and professionals.
How have you or how are you planning to re-invent your career?
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The Corporate Sis.
7 Tips For Women to Successfully Teach Remotely
While so many teachers and professors have been accustomed to teaching in person for most of their careers, the past few months have taught us all to adapt to a new remote environment that is probably going to become the new professional norm, or at least part of it. Teaching remotely requires different skills, technologies, and mindsets to be effective, and even more so for women. While teaching remotely may appear on the surface to be a more convenient or flexible option to teaching in person, it also takes away some of the advantages of in-person learning, including physical cues, body language, and just the incredibly important human aspect of sharing knowledge and exchanging perspectives…
Given the growing gender divide for K-12 teachers, which disproportionately favors women due to the fact that teaching is considered a low social status position and is consequently remunerated less, women tend to be on the teaching frontline in increasingly large numbers while not being compensated enough. In higher education, although the number of female professors has been increasing in the past few years, female professors have been shown to be at a disadvantage, as a result of shouldering more service work as compared to their male counterparts. This is in addition to female professors being held to more stringent standards than male professors, in terms of more work responsibilities, emotional labor, and expectations from students. These factors, among many, contribute to quite the high “glass ceiling” for women teachers and professors, without adding to it the implications and demands of remote teaching.
In this context, here are 7 proposed tips for women to successfully and effectively teach remotely:
- Prep your mindset!
The lack of physical proximity, body language and human contact inherent to remote teaching can make it challenging on the emotional and mental level for instructors. One of the main reasons so many instructors choose teaching as a vocation is related to the impact they can make on students and how they can help the latter strive in and out of the classroom. When said students are permanently reduced to screen corners and words on the chat section of a Zoom meeting, the resulting lack of human connection can be daunting to say the least.
This is why it’s so important to prepare oneself mentally for the prospect of remote teaching, especially as women who already face an uphill battle in terms of the gender inequities. This may entail educating oneself about effective methods of remote instruction, talking to other professionals about the best ways to connect with students remotely, and investing in consistent self-care as well.
- Familiarize yourself with the technology
When it comes to remote work in general, familiarizing oneself with the technology is indispensable. So much time lost and inefficiencies, not to mention aggravating frustrations, can be avoided by having a firm handle on the tools needed to effectively teach online. This is even more important for women, as much of the technology we use in our daily lives and as part of teaching, was not made with women in mind and is not gender-neutral in terms of access or use.
To this end, scheduling some time with the IT department can go a long way towards avoiding future technical snafus, and optimizing online teaching techniques as well. Taking some time to practice and prepare ahead of time is also a non-negotiable for successful remote teaching.
- Set clear goals and objectives
With remote teaching especially, setting and implementing clear goals and objectives is paramount. While it can be easy to get distracted in a remote environment, especially as working women and moms carrying most of the household and childcare burden at home, having already set objectives to refer back to can be a life-saver.
- Prioritize clear communication
In the absence of physical cues and direct communication, setting protocols and standards of clear communication, even if remotely, can be a game-changer for effective remote instruction. This is especially relevant considering the heightened level of expectations placed on women instructors.
Clear communication can take the form of daily emails recapping and reinforcing daily deliverables, or detailed weekly schedules prepared ahead of time, for instance. Whichever method is used should focus on keeping the relevant information as crystal clear as possible.
- Remember time is of the essence!
Time, especially for busy working women and moms with so many outside demands, is of the essence. This is why strategizing remote instruction in an effective and less time-consuming way is so necessary. For some, it may be dedicating the bulk of their time to advance preparation. For others, it may be choosing the right balance between synchronous and asynchronous teaching. Whatever technique or strategy one may decide to use, making wise use of time, both at the instructor and the student’s level, should be a priority.
- Find your sweet spot
Teaching remotely can feel a bit mechanical and impersonal after a while. However, finding one’s sweet spot and rhythm can make all the difference. Do you teach remotely better with case studies and practice exercises than though straight lecturing? Are you more inclined to favor remote group works, or would you rather schedule one-on-one sessions? Are you more a fan of synchronous or asynchronous teaching?
Defining your style and pinning down your sweet spot can bring an added level of effectiveness to your remote teaching, while also increasing your motivation and engagement, as well as that of the students. Showing up as who you truly are as an instructor is always the best recipe…
- Don’t forget about self-care
Last but not least, don’t neglect your own self-care. Teaching is a magnificent vocation. It’s also one that requires a lot of dedication, investment and energy. This is why it’s crucial to consistently devote some time to self-care, from bubble baths, to exciting novels and/or cardio sessions.
What would you add to this list? What are your best tips for effective remote teaching as a woman?
The Corporate Sis.
How to Deal with Political Tension at Work as a Working Woman
In these pandemic-ridden and politically ripe days, avoiding the topic of politics at work is all but practical or possible. In an era where politics come knocking on our front door and invade every area of our personal and public lives, what with COVID-related restrictions, incidences of police brutality, and flaming racism, politics have become part of the fabric of our society. So have become the expected differences in political views and opinions, seeping into both personal and professional relationships.
A few years back, talking about politics at work was considered a taboo. Fast-forward to a drastically different and polarized time, and the taboo itself has been silenced, replaced with a rampant call for more justice and equity from kitchen tables to meeting rooms. Adding to it the stress of an increasingly remote work environment, precarious economic conditions, not to mention a raging pandemic and historical political elections, it becomes virtually unfeasible to keep employees from being vocal their own choices and views. An October 2019 survey by the Society for Human Resource Management reveals 42% of U.S. working individuals have dealt with political disagreements in the workplace, while 44% have borne witnesses to such disagreements. 1 in 10 Americans is reporting differential treatment due to differing political views, while one third of workers describe their workplaces as not inclusive in terms of political differences.
As a working woman and mother, these differences can be even more impactful in this season, as working moms have been shouldering the brunt of the childcare crisis created by the COVID-19 pandemic. Additionally, more women than men have lost jobs as a result of both the pandemic and the childcare crisis that ensued. For many women, fundamental rights to our bodies and vital healthcare are also at stake during this political period and elections. In additional, many, if not most women working virtually, are seeing the gender inequities of traditional work environments being perpetuated and even accentuated in remote environments. As the stakes grow higher, so do the chances of being faced with difficult conversations and interactions at work around the topic of politics.
Here are a few ground rules that can help as a working woman at work:
- Establish your own rules of engagement and set clear boundaries
Where do you stand when it comes to discussing politics at work? Are you open to it? Is it a complete no-no on your end? Are you open-minded, but have clear boundaries as to where to stop? Or are you not clear as to what is allowable and what is not in terms of political discussions in the workplace? Do you even have the emotional and physical bandwidth to engage in or cope with political tension at work?
Each individual has their own set of questions, reservations and thoughts as to this. This is why it’s so important to set one’s own rules of engagement. Consider these your non-negotiable ground rules to abide by. For some, it may be politely declining to engage into any political conversation. For others, it may be allowing themselves to be open about their political views but cognizant of differences with others. Whatever your stance is, you may abide by it, and stick to your own ground rules, granted they are also respectful of others’.
- Respect is key
Speaking of ground rules, respect is and should always be key, especially when there is political tension involved in a professional environment. Part of emphasizing respect is understanding that others have a fundamental right to not share our views, as long as there is no harassment, hostility or retaliation involved.
Another element of respect in this context is the understanding that the very act of voting is a personal one. Voting privacy should be respected, especially in the workplace, which also means refraining from gloating in case of win or complaining in case of loss of one’s preferred electoral candidate.
If and when these basic rules of respect are infringed upon, involving Human Resources may be necessary.
- Practice self-care at work
In an intensely charged political season like the one we’re currently in, self-care is essential. For most working women and moms, waiting to get home or to have a free minute to practice self-care is just impractical. The alternative is to make time, even at work, to take some time for self-reflection and care.
Take your lunch break. Take a quick breather and walk around for five minutes to clear your head. Walk away from difficult and unproductive interactions. Call a trusted friend during your lunch break. Play some uplifting music. Whatever it is that can allow you to catch a break from the tension, even while at work, do it.
All in all, political tension at work, especially in this season, is hard to avoid. As a matter of fact, it may even be counter-productive to avoid, and necessary to foster a more inclusive and diverse work environment. Setting your own rules of engagement and healthy boundaries, practicing and requiring respect, as well as taking care of oneself at work, can help in the process.
How are you dealing with political tension at work?
The Corporate Sis.
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