Yesterday, I heard of yet another story of yet another working mother handing in her resignation letter for lack of adequate childcare, as I myself was struggling to figure out school arrangements for my kids this coming Fall. . There are thousands of stories like these in these times of pandemic. Working mothers are being backed, yet again, against the age-old wall of the excruciating choice between work and family. Except this is 2020, and most of us thought we had won this battle a long time ago…Apparently not.
The fact that this pandemic is scarring a whole generation of women is an understatement. The reality is that it is not just a gigantic step back for working women as gender inequities been multiplied, but also a mental and physical toll on mothers whose effect may impact family, society and economies for decades to come. According to the Womens’ Bureau of the U.S. Department of Labor, 50% of American families are without childcare. 1 in 5 working parents report that either they or their partner are considering leaving their jobs to care for children, as reported by the Cleo April member study report. Worse of all, the U.S. is now ranked the 2nd worst country in the world to raise a family.
Working mothers are abandoning years of investment in their education and careers, along with their mental, physical and spiritual balance, to make up for societal weaknesses that should no longer exist. While these are dire, unprecedented times, they are also times that should prompt us to re-visit why we even have to ask this age-old question again. For many, if not most, it’s an impossible choice that takes food off of the table of honest, deserving working families. For all, it’s a sobering realization that there is so much more work to do for gender equity, which is at the core of our society’s stability.
At this point, the answer to this desperately cruel question is yes, for most working moms. While some may not have to up and leave the workforce entirely, most have to make painfully hard sacrifices to make it work, somehow. However, the future answer to this question does not have to remain so. Movements such as the Invest In Parents Pledge, a movement by working family advocates to support, protect and invest in working parents, especially during this period of pandemic, are helping to change the narrative. Employers and individuals who sign the Invest In Parents Pledge commit to advocating for and supporting working parents so they can remain in, and succeed in the workforce.
In general, a greater awareness, and willingness to address the staggering issues facing working mothers, and working parents overall, is needed. Meaningful action from organizations, companies and governments, is also crucial to effect positive change. This pandemic has been, and still is, a true wake-up call alerting and reminding us of the places in and outside of us in need of repair and even complete overhaul.
The not-so-new pandemic question for working moms is one that has spanned across centuries, and has reared its ugly head again in the wake of the current pandemic. It’s an old question that will not go away until we all make the conscious decision to create environments, organizations and societies that do not force working women to choose between their work and their family.
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