I remember being in mind-boggling traffic the day before Christmas, with still quite a few gifts left to get on my list, exhausted as could be. The year before, I had promised myself not to get to this point of exhaustion and overwhelm again during the holidays. Yet here I was, mentally calculating how to magically fit in the rest of my Christmas shopping, a quickie shower, and the Christmas service at church, not to mention wrapping the rest of the gifts before the clock struck midnight. Can you relate?
If you’ve ever been in my shoes, you know year-end is a notoriously busy time for working moms. Between holiday preparations, year-end work deadlines, and childcare challenges, most working mothers are exhausted around the holidays. According to a 2006 study by the American Psychological Association (APA), the holidays have a negative impact on women, many of whom are largely responsible for year-end celebrations. A 2024 TODAY survey confirms mothers bear the brunt of holiday preparations 97% of the time. Hence the holiday mental load experienced by so many working mothers…
This is also why year-end is one of the most opportune times to reflect on ways to lessen this mental load and avoid burnout. If like myself, you’ve experienced exhaustion and overwhelm during the last weeks of the year, you may have taken it as a wake-up call. I know I surely have…
Here are the three principles I’ve landed on as part of my year-end reflection as a working mom:
Prioritize, prioritize, prioritize!
There are way too many things to do, organize and think of as a working mom not to learn and use the art of prioritizing. This is especially important nowadays as motherhood norms have radically been altered in the past years. From work hours increasing to more mothers breastfeeding, being a modern working mother has become increasingly demanding. Despite the myth that women can do it all at all times, the pressure to do so breeds mounting levels of burnout and overwhelm. So much so that the U.S. Surgeon General issued in August 2024 an advisory on the mental health and well-being of parents…
More than at any other time during the year, the flurry of to-do’s, events, commitments and obligations to attend to during the holidays requires prioritizing. What is most important? What can be delegated, postponed or eliminated? These are a few of the questions that must become pivotal in any working mom’s life to avoid constant chaos and make sanity a priority.
Less is More!
If there ever were a motto to modern motherhood, it would be: “less is more”. As a recovering perfectionist, I’ve learned over time that the only medal there is for trying to do all the things as a working mom is that of exhaustion and overwhelm. And there is no better time than the holidays to realize this harsh reality.
For me, year-end is the perfect time to reflect on and practice streamlining my to-do list as a working mom. From building systems to using the power of automation, and lessening my commitments, finding ways to reduce the load as a working mom is an important part of my year-end reflection and planning.
Set clear boundaries!
Last but certainly not least, year-end holidays are a harsh reminder of the power of boundaries (or the lack thereof). During a season where demands, commitments and deadlines rear their demanding heads at every corner, boundaries are essential. As a working mom who’s struggled with setting boundaries, especially during the holidays, I know the dear price to pay for a boundary-less life.
An important part of my year-end reflection focuses on setting up better boundaries with each passing year. From limiting my year-end engagements, to communicating personal and professional boundaries more effectively at work, giving myself some margin during the holidays has become a non-negotiable. In turn, this allows me to further reflect on and plan stronger boundaries in all areas of my personal and professional life.
Over the years, applying these principles has radically transformed the way I approach the holidays and plan for the new year. Although I still have ways to go, I’ve gotten better at prioritizing what really matters, streamlining the insane amount of year-end commitments and deadlines, and setting stronger personal and professional boundaries. In turn, this has allowed me to reclaim my time, and go from constantly exhausted to empowered to thrive instead of just surviving the various seasons of my life and career.
I hope this year-end is also a fresh opportunity for you to reflect on being less of an exhausted working mom, and more of an empowered, and rested, mother.
How are you going from exhausted to empowered in the New Year?
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