Q: Some of my co-workers have been spreading false gossip about me. I’m aware of what’s happening, and highly upset about it. However, I’m trying to maintain my professional demeanor and not openly confront them in the office. I don’t have any tangible proof of this, and also fear retaliation.
A: Dear “GossipVictim”,
This reminds me of one instance when I had to suffer through this as well. I never confronted those who spread false gossip about me, and ended up regretting it afterwards. Yet, hindsight being 20/20, I’m glad I kept my professional attitude and demeanor throughout the whole ordeal.
Unlike I did, don’t feel like you have to take it laying down. You can address toxic situations at work while still keeping your professionalism intact. You can also confront co-workers (and even bosses) in a very professional manner that will earn you more respect than you think.
I would first address it in a very informal, yet decisive way, by sharing with these co-workers what you’ve heard is being said about you. Casually ask them if they would know the origin of these lies, and not to believe them if they ever heard them. This will help making them understand, in an understated yet still professional manner, that you’re aware of the rampant rumors in the office.
Most likely, they will not confess to spreading these rumors. If the conversation escalates and you’re met with blatant hostility, do not push the issue. Instead, politely excuse yourself and walk away.
If the situation becomes so unbearable and the rumors keep worsening, consider talking to your manager about it. However, avoid direct accusations and finger pointing, as it’s counter-productive. As a very last resort, consider talking to Human Resources.
Readers, what do you think?
To Your Success,
The Corporate Sis
