In academics as well as the professional sphere, Black women have been conditioned to operate in excellence for the longest time. There is a badge of honor that comes with always showing up in your optimal capacity, especially if and when you’re the “only” Black woman in the room, the department, at this or that level, or in the company as a whole. The traditional saying according to which Black women have to work twice as hard to achieve the same, or lesser results, than their counterparts, has and still is, holding true for many Black women in the workplace…
However, with the advent of the COVID-19 pandemic and the racial reckoning that has accompanied it, it is a reality that is increasingly starting to fade out. As the glaring gender, race and class inequalities are rearing their ugly heads, inflamed by the repercussions of a global health crisis shaking the very foundations of our society, women in general, and Black women in particular are questioning the legitimacy and necessity of a narrative aimed at glorifying an ideal of excellence rarely rewarded in kind by the advancement, growth and progress it was always supposed to create.
Excellence, for the sake of it, is certainly a noble pursuit to aspire to. For many, Black Excellence has served as a tool of empowerment. However, unrecognized, demeaned and even questioned excellence drastically diminishes its intended impact and effects. The point of making it into once restricted rooms, once secret conversations, and into once segregated systems, is to birth opportunities for change, growth and progress. When these opportunities are stifled and compressed, status quo not only remains, it grows stronger by the sheer compounding effect of the unrecognized effort and the barriers in place. All in all, it becomes an even harsh reminder of the barriers still standing in the way of gender and race equity for all.
? How can this be when Black women are graduating at higher rates than their male counterparts, and entering the workforce in larger numbers? How can Black excellence result in such dismal representation at lower and higher levels of management alike?
These are just some of the questions at the tip of the Black Excellence iceberg that is prompting many a Black woman to divest from it, and even begin to embrace mediocrity, which for many Black women has long been associated with lack of opportunity. What was hailed as a protection against unfairness and bias, is increasingly being experienced and seen as too costly a badge of honor to carry. One that may unwittingly reduce the lives of those who strive for it, to exceptionalism that may not be necessarily fulfilling, rather than true meaning, purpose, and even sanity.
More and more, the question is being raised as to whether or not measuring Black women’s worth through what is traditionally being defined as “exceptionalism” is still valid? Is being a CEO or high-tech executive in a non-diverse environment the real definition of exceptional success, or one that needs to be re-visited to expand more inclusive definitions of what success may look like across gender and race spaces? Maybe true excellence is about fulfilling a career and life of meaning on our own terms, inclusive of our different identities and aspirations, making it a welcoming space of growth rather than an enclosed trap of traditional expectations…
In 2020, a Pew Research Center analysis revealed women earned 84% of their male counterparts’ earnings. The gap is even deeper for Black and Latina women, who respectively earn 65% and 59% of white men’s earnings. This is not recent news, as the gender pay gap, as we ‘ve traditionally known it, has not changed much in the last 15 years. However, there is an another part of the gender pay gap we don’t often think of or talk about. It’s the equity compensation gap.
The Journal of Applied Psychology recently published a study which found a gap in equity-based compensation awards between genders ranging from 15 to 30%. This equity compensation gap closely mirrors the gender pay gap, taking into account a 20% pay gap in the United States and an estimated 17% gap in Europe. According to an analysis of venture-backed companies’ equity by Carta including over 6,000 companies and 15,000 founders, women were found to hold only 20% of equity despite constituting 35% of equity holding employees. For every dollar owned by male employees, female employees holding equity own just 47 cents. At the founder level, it was found while women make up 13% of startup founders, they only hold 6% of their companies’ equity. For every dollar of equity owned by male founders, female founders only own 39 cents.
While many businesses are striving to address the gender pay gap, they may not be addressing the gap in equity-based awards. As equity-based awards are incentives to retain employees, it can be inferred female employees are not seen as valuable as their male counterparts. Another inference is that women may not be able to build wealth as men do.
Among the factors contributing to the noted gender disparities in equity compensation, is the misinformation or lack of information among employees as related to equity compensation.
To remedy this, here are three ways women can reduce, and possibly eliminate the equity compensation gap:
Talk to trusted colleagues and peers
Male employees often have access to career-related information women may not access, due to not belonging to the same circles. Much of this information points them towards what to negotiate for. This is why it’s important for women to create and nurture their social networks, and talk to trusted peers and colleagues. This is all the more important as women tend to be negatively viewed when negotiating or asserting themselves at work.
Know what to negotiate for beyond salary compensation
Often, women come to the negotiation table without a clear understanding of equity and stock options’ value as related to their overall compensation. Too much emphasis is then put on salary, and not enough on other forms of compensation such as equity and stock options. Understanding this and knowing what (and how) to negotiate for, goes a long way towards reducing equity-based gender gaps.
Advocate for pay transparency
Pay transparency is not only beneficial to employees, but can also help employers identify and remedy existing gaps. As advocates for pay transparency, women can encourage a process whereby female employees have a better understanding of compensation and what to ask for, and where bias is minimized or removed entirely.
All in all, the gender pay gap is more layered and deeply ingrained in the compensation structure than most of us know or realize. Being aware of and proactive about the gender gap in equity compensation can help peel another layer of the pay gap onion, thus reducing the inequity plaguing women at work.
Were you aware of the gender equity gap? If so, how are you fighting it at your level?
In this episode, I delve into 3 tips to transition into the New Year as a woman at work. While we discussed setting goals in last episode, here we dig into the work to do to actually effectively cross the threshold from one year to the other at work.
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New year, new transitions. While the rest of the world is busy setting goals it may or may not accomplish in the next twelve months, what is barely spoken about is the challenging need to transition from one year to the next. When it comes to work, this transition can be a rather daunting one, especially for many, if not most working women and moms taking into the new year increased responsibilities on the home and career front. As we’re still in the midst of an ever-growing pandemic, what with faltering childcare, a growing career “Great Resignation” phenomenon, and the constant debate around vaccinations, making it from one year to the next at work has become quite the difficult process.
As a working woman and mom, you may have felt the pressure of everything going around you, in addition to the usual pressure you normally face. I know I sure have…And while you may be caught up in the day-to-day haze of unending to-do’s and items to cross of your list, you may even not have given much thought of making a clean professional transition from last year. Yet, especially in the trying times we’re living in, it’s much needed. Every career year brings with it its weight of needed (and not-so-needed) changes, especially the last one we’ve been through. So much has changed, and is still bound to change, in the way we work and live, from the advent of remote work to the new rules of quarantine, that we cannot ignore the impact it has on our careers as we move into what feels like a new era…
If you’ve been contemplating the last year and are wondering about how to make the best of this transition at work, as so many of us are, here are some tips that may help:
Refresh your sense of purpose
If there ever is a time to refresh our sense of purpose in our careers, especially as working women and moms, it is certainly at the beginning of a new year, especially as we close a previous difficult one. It’s the opportunity to start again with a fresh slate, a fresher sense of who we are and what we want out of our work.
What are the areas and activities that truly bring you fulfillment? What are those tasks that bring your energy levels up instead of draining you? Where do you find yourself come alive? What parts of your work tap into your natural gifts and talents? These are the areas, tasks and activities that, knowingly or unknowingly, are aligned with your sense of purpose. Reminding yourselves of these, or uncovering them for the first time, can help re-awaken the purpose inside of you and guide you to seek to incorporate more of these into your current work, or move towards work that includes them.
You can also ask these questions of those around you who may provide you with an insight you may not have yourself.
Honestly assess the prior year
Your career is a living, breathing process that is supposed to evolve from year to year. However, this evolution can only occur when you’re willing to honestly assess the past as you move towards the future of your career. This requires you to connect the dots from year to year, asking yourself simple yet deeply revealing questions such as:
How did you feel about the last year of your career? (fulfilled, drained, overwhelmed, satisfied…etc)
What worked well?
What didn’t work so well?
Was last year aligned with your sense of purpose as described above?
These are also questions to ask of those around you at work, including your management and team. You can also consult your performance review for insights into these from others’ perspectives.
Now connect the dots…
Refreshing your sense of purpose and honestly assessing the last year of your career will help you connect the dots as the to the future of your career.
What needs to change?
Based on your sense of purpose and the last year of your career, how are you defining career success in this season? What would you need to do to achieve your own definition of career success, in your current or in a different role?
These three steps to transition from one career to another may seem simple, yet are loaded with information and insights to help you successfully move from one season of your work to another. Most importantly, they will help you set the appropriate, meaningful and purposeful goals for yourself in this new season.
If there is any time in recent memory that has marked working motherhood, it is definitely the global COVID-19 health pandemic of the past couple of years. Not only have working mothers been at the forefront of this crisis, carrying the brunt of it on the work and personal front, what with the advent of remote work, the unequal distribution of household chores and lack of childcare, they are also redefining with their choices the very meaning behind “working motherhood”.
While some working moms are choosing to spend more time at home, others are being forced to give up on their careers to devote themselves to caregiving, leading the way in the phenomenon dubbed as the “Great Resignation”. Others yet are reconstructing their careers after layoffs and business closures brought on by the pandemic, while some are re-imagining their work by launching entrepreneurial ventures or going into different industries. Working mothers are also making their voices heard by shining the light on the challenges they’re facing, calling for increased legislative measures around paid leave for working parents, or the Marshall plan for Moms, consisting in a plan to compensate moms for their unpaid labor.
All in all, in the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic, working moms are setting the bar higher for themselves, organizations, businesses and society at large. As we’re ready to usher in a new year, and so many are setting goals for the future, its only appropriate for working mothers to learn from the past few years, and look forward with a few goals of our own, including:
Define and speak up about what is important to working mothers
While the pandemic did create innumerable issues for society at large, what it also did, is uncover the deep inequalities and inconsistencies plaguing working mothers. As schools closed and childcare resources dwindled to almost nothing, working mothers found themselves stuck at home with multiple jobs, including working remotely, homeschooling the kids, caring for the household and somehow remaining sane and healthy. The silver lining here, above this enormous, unfair cloud, is this situation has prompted many, if not most working moms, to start redefining what matters to them and speaking up for themselves.
Going forward and into the new year, working mothers are committed to defining and speaking what is truly important to them, in terms of family, childcare, elder care, paid leave and work, to cite a few.
Integrate all areas of life
What the pandemic has made obvious is the need to integrate work and life for working mothers. As the future of work is moving towards a remote environment, it’s becoming increasingly important to work at integrating, rather than balancing, work and life for mothers.
In the era of remote work and homeschooling kids, drawing a line in the sand between work and life is virtually impossible. Instead, a more integrated and flexible approach might just be the way to go for modern working mothers.
Be more authentic at work
Working moms are an asset to society in general, and to organizations and businesses in general. From managing multiple responsibilities to negotiating skills, working mothers bring multiple skills that can tremendously improve organizations.
However, these skills are more impactful when working mothers bring their authentic selves to the workplace. Whereas being a working mom might have been considered a career risk in the past, it is now a sign of increased diversity and inclusion, as well as an advantage to the world of work. More importantly, it is a powerful way to open the door for other working mothers coming behind.
Teach kids about what it means to be a working mother
Much of the stigma around working mothers stems from sheer ignorance and lack of education. Much of this lack of awareness starts at home, from the way little boys and girls are socialized, to the implicit and explicit messages they get while growing up. To remedy this, it’s crucial to demystify the misconceptions around working mothers from the onset.
As working moms, we can change these false narratives starting from the way we raise our own kids. From having honest conversations with our children about work, to taking them to the office, we can teach them that not only is it ok to be a working mom, but that there should be more working mothers out there.
Make peace with the guilt
One of the things that is not often talked is the heightened level of guilt felt by working mothers during this pandemic. Spread thin between work, household chores, homeschooling and childcare, most working moms could hardly ever be present in one place or focused on one thing at a time. This in turn caused so many to drop out of the workforce, give in to depression and lower levels of mental health, and generally succumbing to the pressure and massive amounts of guilt.
This coming year, as working mothers, there is a need to make peace with the mom guilt once and for all. Although it may always be present, it can be reframed as motivation instead of an obstacle.
Contribute to gender equality
Working mothers need one another, not just as sources of support, but also as agents of the new Working Motherhood of the future. This also means contributing to gender equality in the workplace by serving as an ally to other working moms, advocating for equal pay, as well as providing women opportunities to advance in their careers. Outside of work, this can also mean participating in local and national politics to promote gender equality.
Advocating for Paid leave
Paid leave is crucial for working moms, and this despite the fact that the United States ranks last among the countries with family-friendly policies. The Family and Medical Leave Act of 1993 requires companies with 50 or more employees to offer mothers of newborns or adopted children 12 weeks of unpaid leave a year. This is compared for instance, to countries like Bulgaria, which offers its new mothers 90% of their salary for more than a year.
Advocating for paid leave by exercising our political rights, speaking up at work or on the platform of our choice, should be one important goal of working moms in the next year.
Consider mental health
The impact of the pandemic has revealed deep, unfortunately often disastrous consequences, on women’s, and working mothers’ mental health. Hence the need to pay more attention to working mothers’ mental state, and general well-being.
Whether it’s engaging in or advocating for more therapy, or focusing more on one’s well-being, mental health should definitely be one of working mothers’ priorities in the new year.
Invest in financial education and empowerment
As working mothers are changing the way they relate to work and life in general, and more structural changes are needed to support them, many, if not most of these changes will require funding and monetary investments. This is where it becomes important for working mothers to harness and leverage the financial knowledge and acumen necessary to do so. Additionally, working mothers are often the ones to determine the education, including the financial education, of their children, and by extension families and communities.
Whether it’s taking an investment class, revisiting one’s budget, or coming up with a new approach to manage money, financial education constitutes an important priority for working mothers.
Building a legacy
Last but not least, working mothers stand on each other’s shoulders. The care, work and devotion of each working mother builds a legacy that the next working mother stands upon. Much of the advances for the benefit of working moms have been achieved by fellow working moms themselves. Hence the importance of creating a legacy as a working mother, through our children, our families, our person and the work we achieve on this plane of life.
Overall, 2022 marks a pivotal year for working mothers, coming out of a global pandemic and re-setting the rules of work and life for moms. Setting goals that can help further the welfare, well-being and fulfillment of working moms can go a long way towards creating a new, improved and powerful working motherhood.
Every year towards somewhere from the beginning to the end of December, the oh so familiar goal-setting, resolution-making dance starts again. From setting SMART goals to building vision boards, it’s all about setting intentions, objectives and/or resolutions for the New Year. Despite these dire statistics, many still believe in setting goals, including many working women. However, nearly 80% of all goals set for the New Year are dropped by the month of February. As studies have found women set goals differently than men, could there be a way to improve the goal-setting process and results by considering these gender differences?
According to one study analyzing gender differences in private and public goal-setting, that is when information about goals is public vs. being private, women tend to choose lower goals than men in general. While men generally tend to outperform women under both private and public goal-setting contexts, women perform worse than women when their goals are made public, as opposed to when their goals are private, in which case they perform better than men. These findings indicate lower levels of self-confidence in women in general, despite the fact that they set more ambitious public goals, which can be explained by the need to socially conform and fit in with the popular opinion. These also confirm higher levels of self-confidence in men, while also supporting gender differences in the attribution of success to external factors such as luck for instance by men, as opposed to internal factors such as skills and abilities for women. Furthermore, the fact that women perform worse under public-goal setting can be correlated with women’s lower performance in competitive environments.
As related to the nature of the goals set by men and women, a 2015 Harvard study demonstrates that while women have more life goals than men, a smaller number of these goals is associated with achieving power in their careers. This is corroborated by earlier studies according to which men and women regard their environments, more specifically their work environments, with different attitudes and expectations, taking us right back to the Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, in which females’ position stands at the self-fulfillment level, while males’ position is at the survival level.
What does this mean for women and goal-setting? One thing it could mean is that the traditional ways in which we’ve learnt to set big, ambitious goals was never adapted to the way women set goals. What it could also mean is that if we adapted the goal-setting process to women more, we may obtain more effective and impactful goals overall. If you’re a working woman reading this, then you may want to re-evaluate the way you have been setting goals. Here are three tips to get started:
Start with private rather than public intentions
Goal-setting is a powerful process that requires some serious introspection and self-awareness. As a working woman and mom, it is important for me to set goals that are authentically aligned with my purpose, as opposed to goals imposed by a need to conform to societal or other forms of pressures. Starting this process in a private manner before making any public commitments is a good way to ensure your goals, and commitment to achieve them, are solid.
Tie your professional goals with your life goals
There’s a reason why studies are showing that women have more life goals than men. Considering that women are more concerned with self-fulfillment than men, as well as the many personal and community hats they wear, tying professional to life goals can help check both the life and work boxes.
Avoid competitive goals
As research has shown women perform less well when setting public goals, due to the competitive nature of the latter, it could help to set goals more focused on personal improvement than competitive in nature.
All in all, the goal-setting process for women can be adapted to the unique ways women think, as well as how they envision their lives and careers. This can not only help set more authentic, sustainable and purposeful goals, but also improve women’s overall performance. It is also a wake-up call for organizations and businesses to revisit the goal-setting process based on gender differences, fore more impactful, high-performing goals and more engaged, committed employees.
Performance reviews are stressful. No matter how well you did, or how positive your experience may have been, the fact is, being evaluated on your performance can trigger a certain amount of stress. Especially if you’re a working woman, as gender bias, in addition to the stress already induced, also plays a prominent role in the outcomes obtained…
Research has confirmed performance appraisals are indeed stressful, both on the side of the appraiser and the appraisee. While a higher degree of physiological response was found on the part of males in the study, females appear to pay more of a psychological price. In the context of annual performance reviews more specifically, the psychological price paid by female employees is compounded by the existence of a gender bias against women. Content analysis of annual performance reviews demonstrates female employees are 1.4 more times likely to get “critical subjective feedback”, as reported by the Harvard Business Review. Women also tend to receive less constructive feedback, which would target both positive aspects of their performance while also pinpointing areas of potential growth. Instead, they tend to get feedback that is more vague and elusive in nature. Another finding attributes women’s performance to luck or length of time in the office, as opposed to skills, talents and abilities. With all these negative factors embedded in the performance review process, is it then any wonder that the proverbial “glass ceiling” and “concrete wall” still threaten women’s career progress?
As a working woman, you may have already realized the existence of this bias as part of your annual performance review. You may even have pointed it out to fellow colleagues, friends and family, yet may not have had the opportunity to bring it up to your management. Or you may have boldly voiced your concerns about it, without getting a clear or substantive answer to your worries. Despite this, there are ways to go about fighting the pervasive and unfortunately persisting gender bias in performance reviews. Here are three (3) tips that may help:
Suggest more objective performance criteria
Considering the language used in performance reviews is often vague and gender-neutral, suggesting more objective criteria for your performance review can remove some of the bias involved. For example, referring to more specific attributes related to the projects you’ve completed, such as timeliness, results obtained, etc, can provide more objective and constructive information to assess your performance.
Ask for a broader set of reviewers
Being reviewed by one individual with a given work style, personality, and priorities can be limiting , especially if said individual is prone to gender bias. Having a broader set of reviewers can not only expand the range of feedback received, but also contribute to getting more accurate and constructive reviews. The more diverse the group of reviewers, the better, more varied and enriching the feedback.
Request more frequent performance reviews
Annual performance reviews usually occur during one of the busiest times of the year, when most managers are desperately attempting to successfully close the year, and most people are exhausted by the pressure of year-end deadlines and holidays looming near. Requesting more frequent performance reviews spread out throughout the year can help alleviate the weight of an often incomplete and biased year-end review. Additionally, more timely feedback on projects and assignments throughout the year can help adjust one’s performance in a faster and more efficient manner over time.
Yes, overall, performance reviews are riddled with bias, gender bias more specifically. For many, if not most working women, it can be quite disheartening. However, and as more and more companies are re-assessing their performance review systems, working women can also proactively and constructively fight back by demanding more constructive, frequent and diverse performance reviews.
Have you experienced gender bias in your performance reviews?
