by Solange Lopes | Nov 27, 2018 | Career
The holidays are a happy time. At least , judging by the highlight reel that is social media, it’s supposed to be. Yet, for many, it’s also a time of dealing more than usual with their dysfunctional families, laced with interludes of gift-giving and awkward sideways hugs. As a disclaimer, most, if not all families, include some element of dysfunctionality. If they didn’t, we’d all be bored out of our minds, and would be way too sane for our own good.
From the crazy uncle who always has something not-so-funny to say (especially after a couple of drinks), to your great-aunt asking why you’re not married (or not having another kid soon), not to mention your two aunties ready to jump at each other’s throat, there can be many ticking human bombs threatening to turn otherwise fun festivities into sheer tests of patience. Thankfully, there are also many positive ways to deal with normal (and abnormal) dysfunction in families without losing your mind (and your cool):
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Mentally prepare yourself
I’ve learnt over time that potentially stressful situations require adequate prior mental preparation. Rather than buying your head in the sand and pretending all is well, start ahead of time by creating your own mental and spiritual shield.
- First, think about and identify what and who triggers you during family events over the holidays. Is it a certain type of remarks? A particular individual? A specific topic of discussion? Knowing this will help you address any difficult situation before and as they arise.
- If necessary, think of ways to answer to and even confront these situations. You may even have to rehearse these ahead of time. Before you start laughing, consider how better equipped you’ll be afterwards.
- Strengthen yourself mentally and spiritually. It could be through positive affirmations, motivational messages, or simply by taking some time out to truly appreciate who you are and all that you’ve done. The more you appreciate yourself, the less room there will be for someone else’s negative opinion of or comment about you to take root…
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You don’t have to avoid confrontation…
One of the biggest obstacles we may face over the holidays when dealing with dysfunctional families is due to our fear of confronting tough situations. This is especially true when dealing with family members. Unfortunately, it’s often those who are closer to us who can hurt us the most, and not facing them can bring about a lifetime of suffering and resentment.
The god news is, you don’t have to avoid confrontation at all costs. As long as you keep your interaction respectful, it’s ok to address situations that may make you uncomfortable. Sometimes, it’s just a matter of pointing out the hurt certain remarks or attitudes may cause you. While you may not be able to control others’ behavior, you owe it to yourself to stand up for yourself, with all due respect, including to yourself.
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But prioritize your peace
I’ve learnt that there is no price too small to pay for peace. As much as you owe it to yourself to confront certain situations as necessary, prioritizing your peace is key. This may also mean avoiding an unnecessary argument, not participating in certain conversations, or even staying away altogether. It may also mean seeking closure and reconciling with a family member, or finally putting a long-lasting feud to rest.
What does peace mean to you over the holidays? Depending on your unique family situation, you may have to determine it for yourself.
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Let it go!
Last but not least, while the holidays may at times be trying in dysfunctional families, it’s important to not carry the resulting baggage with you. We’re all different people with various sensitivities, feelings and experiences. Sour words may be exchanged, hurtful remarks made, or offensive behaviors had. At the end of the day, we must learn to let it go and move on.
Many, if not most families, have one or many dysfunctional elements, from interesting family members to painful pasts. Dealing with it can be challenging, but not impossible. As a matter of fact, it may be a wonderful opportunity to learn, strengthen yourself and come out on the other side as a wiser, stronger and more compassionate human being.
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by Solange Lopes | Nov 26, 2018 | Career
Going back to school as a working mom can seem like an impossible feat. If you add your parenting duties to your work responsibilities, not to mention the upkeep of the home, your ever-expanding mountain of laundry, and your attempts at not losing your quarterly date night, it would be a complete no-no.
As a working mom myself, going back to study for my Certified Public Accounting exam felt like sheer torture. It was not so much about adding one more giant pile of to-do’s to everything I was already behind on. It was more about the incessant guilt I felt about missing out on the time I could spend with my babies and spouse. It was also about having to consistently juggle loads of commitments, without barely having any time to myself.
Yet, as difficult and challenging as it is, it’s possible. As I look back on this time, and prepare myself to embark on another scholarly journey, there are a few tips I learnt in the process that I can share here:
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Clarify your “Why”
The first, and most important step, in the process of going to school as a working mom, is clarifying your “why”. Why are you doing this? Is it to improve your family’s situation? Is it to get a promotion, or change careers altogether? Is it to offer your children a better life? Or a combination of all these?
Knowing your “why” also allows you to see the light at the end of the tunnel, especially during those trying moments when all you want to do is quit. It’s this “Why” that will not only keep you going in hard times; but will also give you the motivation and drive to accomplish your goals.
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Talk about it with your significant other and family members
As a working mom, you no longer are alone in making decisions, especially when it comes to life-changing decisions such as going back to school. This is why it’s so important to have honest conversations with your significant other and family members, including the children.
In order to succeed at this, you’ll need their support and complete buy-in. It’s important to discuss and answer important questions such as:
- How will your family’s schedule change?
- How can your significant other help you?
- What changes will you have to implement to make it work as a family?
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Make a lifestyle plan
Remember, this is not just about going back to school and getting re-acquainted with classes and homework. Rather, as a working mom, it means a whole lifestyle change that you have to be prepared for. Hence, the need for a complete lifestyle plan that will take into account the needs of all the family members, and allow you to thrive as a mom and a student.
For me, it was about overhauling my schedule and changing my lifestyle from one of family and work responsibilities, to one that included earlier mornings, later nights, and more sharing of commitments.
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Adjust your expectations
Going back to school as a working mom is hard. There’s no more diplomatic way to put it. If you happen to be a perfectionist like myself, you may be tempted to maintain the same expectations you had before heading back to school.
However, it’s crucial to adjust your expectations to your new schedule and lifestyle. Not only will it save you much heartache, but it will also help you keep going when the going gets tough.
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Be compassionate towards yourself
Last but not least, practice compassion towards yourself. This is a very rewarding, yet challenging process. It also means that you must forgive yourself for those nights when you just cannot stay awake to do your homework. Or those mornings when getting up early seems impossible. Or for not being the best mom at all times.
All in all, going back to school as a working mom is not only possible, but very much potentially successful, with the right mindset, approach and discipline. While it requires many adjustments, it may just be one of the most exciting, and rewarding, endeavors you’ll undertake.
To Your Success,
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by Solange Lopes | Nov 25, 2018 | Career
I’m blessed to know many amazing working women who thrive each and every day in their lives, careers and/or businesses. From my own sister to friends and family, these women set the bar pretty high when it comes to living and working on purpose. However, when it comes to the holidays, I find myself scratching my curls to figure out what Christmas gift to get these ladies who already have so much going on for themselves.
What do you get a thriving, ambitious and successful working woman who already has everything, or at least almost everything? This is the question I spent quite some figuring out. This year, I’m sharing 12 of my favorite gifts for working women who have everything, as inspired by my own Christmas gifting list:
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An efficient planner
For busy, thriving working women, organization is absolutely key! Having the right tools to get and stay organized can make a world of difference for these ladies. Hence, one of my absolute favorite items to gift working women around me, Erin Condren’s Lifetime Planner.This planner is personalized and customized to fit the user’s unique schedule and lifestyle. It also allows for monthly and yearly planning, and comes with beautiful quotes and notes, as well as customizable layouts, stickers and extras included. It’s the perfect tool for working women to get their organization on, and in style!
Related: 12 best planners for working women
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A good book
Nothing like a good book to inspire, motivate and encourage an ambitious working women to keep going and take her work and life to the next level. This is why a good book always comes in handy as a holiday gift.
This year, at the top of my book gifting list, is my favorite FLOTUS’ new memoir “Becoming Michelle Obama”. For my business sisters, I’d get the Michael Gerber’s “The E-Myth Revisited: Why Most Small Businesses Don’t Work and What to Do About it”. My favorite classics to offer every year fr the holidays also include the cult book “We should all be feminists” by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, “Big Magic” by Elizabeth Gilbert, as well as “Smart Women Finish Rich” by David Bach. Of course, I cannot forget my own book “Girl, Take Back Your Career“, available on Amazon.
For a complete list of my book recommendations, check out my Influencer Shopping List on Amazon.
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Great office supplies
Working women need their tools to work efficiently, productively and…in style too! This is why great office supplies are a working gal’s best friends. Among my favorites to gift during the holiday season, the Night Owl Paper Goodsoffice supplies, along with the Erin Condrenpaper and other office accessories. Mintedis also a great place for office supplies as gifts.
For the busy career ladies in my life, tools such as this Bonsaii EverShred shredderor this Epson Eco Tank wireless printer with scanner and copier, are always appreciated.
Related: 28 best sites for office supplies
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A great app
In the modern age of techonology, apps are the new go-to’s for busy working women who want to be efficient, productive and more fulfilled on the go. An app can help them do just that, while making for perfect, low-stress gifts.
I love gifting iTunes gift cardsthat allow access to millions of apps in the iTunes stores. Among these, the Corporate Sister appis right at your fingertips for all things career, business and lifestyle for working women too!
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A statement piece of jewelry
Even the best-dressed, most accomplished working woman out there can always use a statement piece of jewelry to take any professional outfit to the next level. For instance, this vintage Chanel gold metal pins and broochmakes for a piece to remember on any occasion. So does this unforgettable Cartier Entrelaces bracelet from the Real Real.
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A Power Suit
Nothing says powerful woman like an impressive power suit. It also makes for a great gift for the working woman who already has much to be thankful for. This Tahari ASL notched-lapel pantsuitwould be a welcome addition to any working woman’ wardrobe. So does this LeSuit women’s pinstripe one-button shawl collar pantsuit.
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The gift of self-care
For booked and busy working women, self-care is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. Why not offer it as a gift then?
For the athletic working lady around you, gifts from sporting stores such as Athleta,or Foot Locker,are always appreciated. Pieces such as the Flux street joggeror this Lombard hoodiemake useful and practical gifts for any working woman.
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Business tools
Business tools are always great ideas for holiday gifts, especially for working women who are building their empires.
For those corporate and business sisters building their websites, website hosting services such as Bluehostplans make great gifts. For all things logos, websites, and design of all kinds, 99Designspackages are also great to offer.
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A trip
My sister just went on a trip, all-expenses paid by her best girlfriend. After all, what better gift to the working women in your life than a trip to remember? CheapoAiris a great place to score bargains for this. So is TripAdvisor. You can even go one step further and offer the gift of vacation rental through Airbnb.
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More knowledge
Ambitious working women distinguish themselves by their thirst for knowledge. This is why offering them the gift of continuous learning is always appropriate. You can offer them the world’s largest selection of courses spanning a variety of topics and subjects in Udemyfor instance.
You can also gift them with the polished writing that can help them take their careers or businesses to the next level with Grammarly. For the women entrepreneurs around you, the educational platform Thinkific where they can create their own courses, also makes for an ideal holiday offering.
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Beauty
Spoil the working women in your life with the gift of beauty at places such as Sally Beauty, Sephoraor Birchbox. Even the busiest of working lady can enjoy a new lipstick or hair product for the holidays.
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Stylish glasses
Give the gift of stylish glasses to the working women in your life with original frames from Warby Parker! The working ladies in your life will thank you!
Happy Holidays!
The Corporate Sis.
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by Solange Lopes | Nov 21, 2018 | Career
The holidays are not just times for celebration, but also festive times and occasions that require you to dress well. From work events to holiday parties, there are numerous opportunities to, well…dress well. However, it’s also a time when financial constraints are multiplied, which can significantly reduce one’s fashion budget.
As a self-proclaimed fashionista, the holidays are my favorite “fashionable” times. Yet, since it’s also a time when budgets tend to get tight with gift-giving and festive occasions, I’ve had to find ways to dress well with less money.After making my own not-so-fashionable mistakes over the holidays, and learning along the way, here are my tried-and-true tips to dress well for the holidays on a budget:
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Shop your closet
How many times have you found yourself thinking you have nothing to wear, only to dig out a piece of clothing you had all but forgotten about from the depths of your closet? I know I have, which is why I recommend shopping your closet first. It’s amazing what you can find in the depths of your closet when you’re not thinking about it.
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Re-purpose your workwear
Michael by Macheal Kors Mixed Media Dress – Photo credit: shopstylecollective.com
Your workwear is a great and “fashionable” dressing source for the holidays. Consider re-purposing it and adding more festive jewelry or fancier shoes for the holidays. I have used a number of my work sheath dresses, such as this Michael by Michael Kors mixed media dress. I’ve paired them with fancier heels, like these Head Over Heels Ashleigh bow pointed heels from ASOS, and great jewelry like these Kate Spade New York Glitzville Statement stud earrings for
ASOS bow pointed heels – Photo credit: shopstylecollective.com
holiday parties.
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Take advantage of sales
The holidays are also a great time to take advantage of sales. From shopping Black Friday sales to scouring reduced items, there are countless opportunities to shop for festive holiday wear on a budget. One of my favorite go-to’s for sales is the women’s fashion department of Target,which always offers unique styles and pretty deep discounts too.
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“Merchandise” it
Josie Natori Hammered Metal Cuff – Photo credit: shopstylecollective.com
Sometimes, all it takes to create a great outfit is to “merchandise” it, or upgrade it with great accessories. Back in my “Sex and the City” days, I remember Carrie used to call it “merchandising” your fashion…Some of my favorites include fun and funky brooches such as this Banana Republic balloon brooch pin, or this Josie Natori Hammered metal cuff.
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Rent clothes
Rent the Runway – Photo credit: renttherunway.com
Got a special occasion for which you need something absolutely unique? Online services such as Rent the Runway, LeTote or Gwinnie Bee for instance, offer stylish, designer pieces you can rock on a budget to the next black-tie work affair or your boss’s daughter’s wedding.
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Swap clothes
Consignment shops that allow individuals to re-sell clothes in good condition are also a great source of inexpensive, and original, holiday wear. Online shops such as The Real Real,Poshmarkor even eBayare my favorite go-to’s for high-end, lightly used fashion.
The Real Real – Photo credit: therealreal.com
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Have fun!
Last but not least, don’t forget to have fun with dressing well over the holidays. I find that every time I enjoy the process of dressing up, especially on festive occasions, the result is always great fashion that doesn’t break the bank. Go ahead and mix patterns and trends to create holiday wear that is uniquely you, and most importantly, brings you and others joy and fun in this season!
Happy Holidays!
The Corporate Sis.
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by Solange Lopes | Nov 19, 2018 | Career
As working women, we tend to wear many “working hats”. From caring for our families to juggling demanding careers, it can be easy to get caught in a whirlwind of activities. Especially as working moms, slipping into the sea of commitments, appointments, and obligations can become a daily occurrence, until we start thriving to work on purpose…
As I grew in my career and became a mom, I found myself increasingly lost in the midst of everything I had to attend to. It seemed as if I were always working. If I were not working at work, I’d be working at home on my second or third (or even fourth sometimes) shift. While I was clearly being busier than productive, the purpose of all I was doing, especially my work, was also lost to me. I was working to make money to pay the bills, and caring for my family as best as I could. Yet, there were many times when I asked myself: “Is this all there is? Why am I really doing all this?”, and “What is really my purpose in all this?”
I’m sure you may have asked yourself the same question many times over, at one point or another of your career or life. Most of us have. In a world that’s busier by the minute, even taking the time to think has to be scheduled way ahead of time. Yet, this lack of direction and purpose created by constant busy-ness is not just costing us our health and sanity. It’s also preventing us from doing our best work and living our best life.
A significant part of my growth as an individual and working woman has been centered around learning to work and live more on purpose. By this, I mean striving to be more intentional about what I do and how I do it. This process has thankfully brought me to change careers, alter my mindset, and even start exercising on an almost daily basis. It has been, and still is, a challenging process, as I’m tempted daily to sink into the dangerous pit of busy-ness and mindless achievement. Yet, with the help of mentors, through my faith and lots of trial and error, I’ve slowly come to laying manageable steps to work and live more on purpose as a working woman and working mom. Here’s what has worked for me, in 7 simple but not-so-simple iterations:
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Start with the “Why”
“Why am I doing this?” This seemingly simple question has become one of my absolute go-to’s in everything, or at least almost everything, I start. Very often, we can start processes and experiences without knowing why we’re even engaged in them. From picking jobs and careers that are ill-fitted to our personalities and desires, to marrying the wrong man and choosing destructive friendships, we may waste precious time as a result of missing the “why” behind our decisions.
Why did you pick the job? Why are you entertaining these relationships? Why are you completing the degree? All these questions are not only necessary, but crucial to picking a direction in line with your purpose.
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Develop a love affair with yourself
I had to fall back in love with myself, and embrace who I was created to be, before I could even begin working and living on purpose. Too many outside opinions, pieces of advice and external considerations had me going in personal and professional trajectories I wasn’t happy or fulfilled with.
Learning to know myself, what works for me and what doesn’t, what excites me and sets me on fire, has allowed me to walk away from jobs, careers and relationships that weren’t for me. It’s also helped me enter fields and develop relationships that bring me so much joy and fulfillment.
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Learn your limitations and challenge them
However, this is not just about fostering a love affair with yourself and the world. It’s also about discovering your own perceived limits and challenging them to the best of your ability. Many, if not most times, these limitations, whether real or perceived, keep us from being more intentional and purposeful in our work and lives.
For me, working on purpose also involved facing my fear of public speaking. It means not just putting myself out there, but also learning the necessary tools and getting the right mentorship to become better at it.
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Create a network that works for you
It takes a village to build a purposeful and intentional career and life. This is why it’s so important to build a network around you. Not just any network, but a network that works for you and fits your own life and career.
It took me a while to build the right networks for me. Getting over my fear to network, and then finding networks that feel like home, allowed me to really strive in my work and life.
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Worry about fit more than appearances
Working on purpose is also a matter of knowing, and applying, what works for you. This is where the right fit comes in. What work fits you best? What type of environment fits you best? What work-life integration is best for you?
For me, it was a matter of understanding the best fit for me in terms of careers, locations and work-life integration. In turn, it helped me transition careers and lifestyles in a way that works best for me.
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Cherish the process
Working and living more intentionally also requires trusting and cherishing the process. The longer I resented and resisted the process, the longer it took.
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Release control
Last but not least, release excess control on the outcomes of your career and life decisions. There is a large part of our own individual processes that requires us to let go. I’ve learnt to do my best and release the outcome.
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by Solange Lopes | Oct 16, 2018 | Career
Have you ever noticed how even with the best of intentions and incredible amounts of willpower, you may still not be reaching your goals? Have you over-exerted yourself over and over again, only to end up so far from your objectives that you lost all motivation? Do you often wonder what else you have to do to push through your blocks, eliminate your distractions and finally get things done? I asked myself these same questions too many times to count. I know I’m not the only one…until I realized that it was not so much what I was doing, as opposed to how I was thinking. While I was so absorbed in “doing”, I forgot that my thinking played an even bigger role in the direction of my life and career, and that ultimately, it’s really “mind over matter”…
You may be the most motivated person around. Yet, if you keep having thoughts of self-doubt, powerlessness and ineffectiveness, you may just be wasting your time, energy and efforts. Even when you achieve your most important goals and objectives, you may end up running out of stamina and be unable to keep your efforts consistent. You may fall prey to distractions (as you catch yourself scrolling through Instagram), procrastinate, or simply talk yourself out of your best opportunities, all because of your mindset and the way you think.
As women especially, we tend to be socialized around negative thought patterns about who we are and what we do, at work and in life. From being forced to shatter the glass ceiling to fighting for equal rights in other areas of work and life, it can be easy (and tempting) to give in to negative mindsets and block any progress.
As I struggled with my own negative mindset patterns, here are a few things I learned about having a “mind over matter” mindset:
Dress up your mind
If you know me, you know I love dressing up. I’m also West African, which means I follow a long tradition of African elegance. It also means being over the top every now and then, but I digress…My point is, very often, we worry about dressing up the outside without thinking about the impact our minds have on our lives. What if we dressed up our minds with the same care and attention we use to dress ourselves up? What if, instead of dwelling in negativity, procrastination and ineffectiveness, we chose instead to put on our best mindset to tackle our goals on a daily basis?
I’ve learnt that in order to master one’s mindset, you need to work at dressing it up in the best way you can. You need to actually put positive thoughts on, practice regular mindset routines, oh….and get off Instagram too!
Be aware of your thoughts
It’s one thing to dress your mind up, repeat one hundred affirmations before 8am, and be ready to take on the world mentally! It’s another to actually be aware of your own thoughts and the negative patterns that may be preventing you from being your best self.
I’ve learnt to pay attention to my own thought patterns by recognizing them first. What are the self-defeating thoughts and patterns you need to be aware of?
Watch your surroundings
The environment you’re in plays a large role in the way you think. It took me a long time to understand that we absorb energies around us, especially as introverts and empaths. As women especially, we’re often in positions where we care for those around us, from our families to our co-workers. This is great if you happen to be in positive, supportive and fulfilling environments.
However, if you happen to be in negative, toxic and even damaging environments, it can single-handedly thwart your growth and progress. As a matter of fact, such surroundings can even make you sick. As you look around you, are your surroundings keeping you from being your best self?
Understanding the importance that my mindset plays in my life changed it for the better. It can be very easy to let your thoughts run wild and lose control over many, if not most, areas of your life. Yet, with the same care that we put in getting dressed up for applying our makeup on, we can change the course of our entire life and work.
Now your turn: How has your mindset changed your life for the better or for the worse?
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by Solange Lopes | Oct 4, 2018 | Career, Working Mom & Woman Tips
I often talk about being moderated, driven, and pursuing your goals as a working woman. However, there also times when being overly driven and motivated can create significant overwhelm in your life. I know I’ve found myself in overwhelming situations more often than I wanted to as a result of wanting to cram as much in my schedule as possible. As a working mom, I wanted it all to fit in. The family, the career, the side hustle, even the worship and praise. It had to all fit in. Until I started getting so tired, irritable, and out of sorts, that I couldn’t recognize myself. It doesn’t help that in the age of female empowerment and social media, we are constantly egged on to continually hustle and do whatever it takes to succeed.
Overwhelm happens. As a matter of fact, it happens to many, if not most women. However, it doesn’t have to. We don’t have to live as victims into a continuous sense of never being on top of our schedule or our lives in general even when our to do list mountable feel like there never going to be enough hours in the day, they are ways to beat overwhelm:
Acknowledge the situation
When busyness becomes a badge of honor, it can be easy to deny the fact that we’re overwhelmed. Instead, we start thinking that being constantly tired and at a of loss is a normal state of being. It begins with acknowledging the problem before we can actually solve it. Are you not feeling yourself? Do you feel constantly exhausted and not in control of your time, do you feel like you’re constantly on the go and never have a minute to stop? These and so many others are clean signs that you may be overwhelmed.
It took a long while for me to acknowledge that I was indeed overwhelmed. As a recovering people-pleaser, saying “yes” to every request was the norm for me. When overwhelm started settling in, I was first in a state of denial, feeling guilty for not being able to handle it all. It actually took having the honesty and humility to admit to myself that I was in over my head to start changing things.
Identify the sources of your problem.
The next step is to recognize what is causing your sense of overwhelm. It may be that you have unreasonable expectations as to your schedule or the demands of your life and work. Most often, it is the case. Identifying the source(s) of your overwhelm is a powerful tool to target what needs to changed.
After admitting to myself that I was indeed overwhelmed, I had to identify what was causing such an imbalance in my life and work. I recognized that my then-lack of organization, as well as my inability to prioritize, were to blame. It was clear then that I had to double down on organizational skills, and do less while having more impact and…less overwhelm.
Start making small changes.
The mistake we often make when trying to beat overwhelm as working women is to make too drastic changes all at once. Instead, start by making small changes to your daily schedule. I know I had to begin small to keep from being panicked at the idea of reducing my to do list. What that meant for me was to try to target the most critical aspects of my work and life first, one day at a time . What does it mean for you? What small changes can you start implementing on a day-to-day basis?
What this meant for me was to re-evaluate my daily routine. I realized there were many commitments that did not have any impact on my productivity or the overall goals I was setting for myself. Realizing this was allowed me to start making small modifications to my schedule, such as waking up earlier, re-evaluating my involvement in certain non-critical projects, and backing out of projects I could not commit to.
Identify what matters to you
The main reason why we get overwhelmed is that we simply try to do too much. We get away from what’s really important to us to try and control everything else. This is why it’s so important to come back to your list of priorities and identify what matters most to you. Is it your family? Is it your work? Even within your family and your work, what aspects are most important to you?
For me, it was coming back to the essentials, such as spending fruitful time with my loved ones, or focusing on work that really mattered to myself and others. It wasn’t until I clearly and unapologetically pinpointed these that I was able to pursue my goals more proactively.
Give yourself grace
Beating overwhelm is not an easy process. You may encounter feelings of guilt, self-doubt and self questioning all along the way. It helps to forgive yourself and allow yourself some grace, patience and understanding through this process.
For me it meant condemning myself less for being overwhelmed and trying to change on a daily basis. It also meant not being overly harsh with myself on days when I still felt under pressure. It also meant being willing to move on from failures, and apply the lessons learnt going forward.
Now your turn: how do you beat overwhelm in your work and life as a working woman?
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