How do you network when you can’t actually physically meet people? That’s the question so many of us grapple with in the new normal that the COVID-19 pandemic has placed us in. Instead of naturally meeting in person, we’re now forced to interact through a screen and adhere to the rules of virtual networking. However, it’s not because we’re facing drastically different circumstances, that we should forego networking, especially as working women and moms who have been excluded (and in some aspects still are) from many an exclusive professional network.
As a working mom, it was not until I was well into my career that I understood the importance of networking. The same reality has faced, and is still facing lost of working women like myself. Not being socialized to view networking as an important part of our careers, in addition to not being allowed into important networks and old boys’ club, has turned networking into working women’s most prevalent Achille’s heel. Yet, as relationship-oriented communicators, women are natural networkers, whether in person or virtually. However, when the already challenging waters of networking are further constricted by the need to be virtual most of the time, it has the potential to put women even more at a professional disadvantage.
This is where learning to adapt and network virtually becomes more of a necessity rather than an indulgence. While it may seem intimidating to create mutually beneficial connections through a screen, it is actually possible, and even practical, to do so. The flexibility and convenience offered by technology allow for more opportunities for networking events, while the plethora of technology available can make it easier to follow up on established connections. In addition to these technological advantages, here are 3 simple ways to succeed at networking virtually:
Leverage the power of social media and technology
A great advantage to living in this current era is the sheer abundance of ways to communicate and connect. From social media to email, not to mention text messaging, countless networks are literally at our fingertips. Why not take advantage of all these opportunities?
Use social media platforms such as Linked In to identify individuals and communities you are interested in networking with, and learning more about them. Sharing articles, responding to and commenting on posts, or even sending direct messages are a few ways to informally network with these and set the foundation for healthy and mutually beneficial relationships. Online communities, such as professional groups in certain industries, can also greatly facilitate the creation of online relationships. Last but not least, joining online events through social medial platforms or other technological tools can also contribute to accomplishing your networking goals.
Keep the human touch
Networking is not just about mechanically meeting people, and expanding your roster of connections. It’s first and foremost about establishing human relationships, that are mutually beneficial for both parties. This involves the understanding that a back-and-forth exchange has to occur between both parties involved, and that a natural relationship should come out of this.
This is where maintaining the human touch is crucial. Allowing for a natural flow, sharing personal stories and anecdotes, finding common interests and tastes, just like in any natural relationship, are all ways to build a natural connection. While doing this in a virtual environment can be more challenging, remaining as authentic and natural as possible is key.
Follow up!
Following up is to networking what a spectacular signature is to a good email. A good follow-up can literally make or break a networking relationship, especially at the beginning. This is even more relevant when networking virtually. In the absence of physical cues and body language, creating a sense of continuity in the relationship by following up via email, text message or social media is invaluable.
All in all, networking virtually can present challenges and seem unfamiliar. However, it is also an opportunity to leverage the power of technology to keep building human connections at work.
What do you think of networking virtually? What other tips would you add to the list?
In this new COVID-19 virtual era that our “new normal” is, giving virtual presentations, whether for an interview, or career or business-related, has become indispensable. However, mastering the art of giving effective virtual presentations can present a few challenges. Not being in the physical presence of others, lacking body language and facial cues, can make it cumbersome to deliver online when presenting information.
I know as an introvert myself, holding online presentations, especially while teaching, was quite intimidating at first. There is a lot more to take into account when delivering information virtually, from the technology to the attendees, while being deprived of the usual physical and facial signs we’re so accustomed to getting in “normal” circumstances. For me, it’s been a matter of re-learning to communicate in a different way, and adapting my personality, body and image to present valuable information in a way that remains authentic and practical for myself and others.
I first had to assess myself and identify my own fears or pre-conceptions around communicating virtually. Interestingly enough, many of these were rooted in my lack of familiarity and comfort with the appropriate technology to use. Once I was able to get a better handle on the technology, it became a bit easier. Then it became a matter of engaging my audience enough to have a conversation, instead of a boring monologue. This is where the human factor came in for me, and helped me take down some of the inherent communication barriers that come with anything virtual. Last but not least, creating a lasting impact was important for me, especially in a virtual world where things and people are forgotten so easily.
If you’ve been working on improving your virtual presentations, or feel frozen every time you have to get on Zoom, then here are a few tips that can help with giving outstanding virtual presentations:
Preparation, preparation, preparation!
One valuable lesson I learnt about effective virtual presentations was to always come extra-prepared. There is much more of a lack of predictability online than in person, from the technology refusing to collaborate to attendees’ lack of participation. This means coming in a few minutes earlier to check that the tech side of things, from the wi-fi connection to the computers being sufficiently charged, is up to par. Having a back-up laptop or device, as well as a copy of your presentation, can also go a long way in case things go awry. Sending reminders to attendees can also prove helpful in ensuring the presentation stays top of mind for everyone involved.
Being mentally prepared is also an essential component here, from ensuring you have enough stamina to keep you going, to calming your nerves before (and during) the event.
Engagement is key!
The key to a successful, and fulfilling virtual presentation, is engagement. That’s the human factor that can create a vacuum when lacking from interactions, even if they are online. Yet, a very real question remains: How do you engage an audience that you can see but are not in the presence of? This was stressful to me when I first started doing virtual presentations as a professor and speaker.
Creating engagement for me is a matter of maintaining a sense of conversation as opposed to running a one-sided monologue. This includes adopting a conversational tone, engaging in a back-and-forth with the audience through questions and activities, as well as encouraging and picking up on the questions and signs the audience is sending.
Takeaways
Last but not least, offering take-aways is also key to an outstanding virtual presentation. It’s important to create a lasting impact through your presentation, which ups the human factor and helps in establishing lasting human connections, thus creating more of a sense of a natural as opposed to a virtual exchange.
This can be done by offering a downloadable document for attendees to take with them, or a potential follow-up event or meeting. The point here is to create a sense of continuity and connection that lasts even after the presentation is complete.
Let it the be the Weekend is our weekly news roundup, where we share fun, exciting and breaking news for working women and moms…
This week hit us hard as the world is grieving the loss of Chadwick Boseman, our beloved Wakanda Forever King T’Challa;
In historical news this week, Fabiana Pierre-Louis has become New Jersey Supreme Court’s first Black woman justice;
Black Enterprise writes about Jessica Krug, an Afro-Latina activist who recently revealed she’s a White Jewish woman, and we’re scratching our heads over here;
Business Insider lists 11 top online college degrees where graduates can earn more than $90,000;
Working Mother reveals 84% of employees’ mental health is suffering from working from home;
Recruiting Blogs shares tips to stay productive while working from home;
Entrepreneur tips you off on 10 side hustle skills you can acquire this Labor Day weekend;
Time to vote! Refinery 29 encourages Latina voters with the news of Eva Longoria and America Ferreira launching “She Se Puede”;
Motherly offers 10 tips from a teacher to make distance learning work;
Moved recently or planning to move? The Corporate Sister presents the 10 commandments of moving with kids.
Dear Working Mom is our weekly love letter to working moms everywhere, where we talk about motherhood, life, work and everything in between…
Dear Working Mom,
First off, let me tell you, you have been doing an amazing job these past few months, handling the new normal of a pandemic, homeschooling, working from home, in addition to wearing all the other hats you wear day in and day out…And you are not crazy, this back-to-school season is terrifying. It is scary to send kids back to school in the midst of a global pandemic, while starting a back-to-work routine we’ve never dealt with before….It is scary to add homeschooling to your list of to-do’s for the next academic year, say good-bye to regular childcare for now, or wonder how this will be affecting your kids mentally…
They call it the new normal, but there’s nothing remotely normal, new or old, about any of this. While we’re all trying to make it work somehow, it’s ok to simply recognize that this season is downright terrifying. That even if we’ll still do it afraid, there’s no shame in admitting that we’re struggling sometimes, or even quite often. That this tiredness that we’re feeling is not procrastination, and definitely not laziness, it’s our bodies and minds asking us to take a respite from this constant treadmill of life, work and everything in between we’ve been on for so long…
You’re not crazy, there seem to be less hours in the day. It is more challenging to carry out a full day of homeschooling, work, and house responsibilities, not to mention elder care and other duties. Above all, it is heart-wrenching to do it surrounded by echoes of premature deaths, economic uncertainty, racial unrest and social distancing…
At a time when you should be looking forward to dropping off the kids at school and driving away in the sunlight, you’re shopping for office supplies to set up the kids’ study station at home. Or you’re buying loads of face masks, endlessly repeating to your kids how they must keep them on at all times in school, while at the same time calming your worried heart…Or wondering if your Black children will be treated any differently at school, as your mind races every time one of Black relatives steps out the door…You’re watching back-to-school pictures with kids sitting at their laptops, wondering how fast reality changed…
No, you are not crazy. You’re not not keeping up, or falling behind, or not pushing yourself hard enough…Give yourself some grace through this season, some room to breathe, some space not to have to find another solution, another workaround, another comforting word or thought to offer to everyone else but yourself…
This is different, this hits hard, and it hits home…And you’re doing the best you can…
Moving is a process. Moving with kids is…a very complicated process, which I had the opportunity to learn the hard way recently after 14 years in our beloved first home. Little did I anticipate the amount of work, frustration, and sheer exhaustion that comes with hauling over a decade of belongings, memories, and people (little and big) from one location to the next, while still “wifing”, mothering and working, not to mention looking somewhat human in the middle of a pandemic, in the process.
I remember moving as a child, and it seeming like the most exciting adventure, albeit my mother screaming in the background for us to get it together. Fast-forward a few decades, a couple of kids and one husband later, the sense of adventure was still there. Except this time, it was a different kind of adventure. The kind that makes you want to pull your hair out, pour yourself a glass of rose before lunch, as you still manage to wonder at the grace of God allowing you to stand on two feet and move forward…It’s also the kind that teaches you so much more than any HGTV home renovation show ever could, from how not to pack fragile glasses to how to keep your cool when you can’t find anyone’s underwear for days…
If you’ve gone through a move or two as a working mom without losing your sanity, first of all, you’re my kind of woman and I salute you. If you have, you’re also my kind of woman and I’m right there with you. In any case, I’m thankful, and you may be too, for the lessons learned in the process, some of which I have gathered below as my 10 Commandments of Moving as a Working Mom:
Thou Shalt Pack Well!
You don’t know the importance of proper packing until you tearfully unpack a box full of broken glassware, and there’s no one else to blame but yourself. As a repeat offender guilty of poor packing, I have changed my ways this time around, and have invested instead in Uhaul moving kits complete with boxes, tape and bubble wrap, plus the labeling markers to boot.
The upside to this is you can make the whole packing experience a fun process for the kids too. They will love to put boxes together, organize their own things and learn in the process too…
Thou Shalt Find the Right Moving Transportation
Here’s the thing with accumulating stuff for over a decade. Other than going through it all and packing it, you’ve got to physically move it from one location to the next. In the middle of a pandemic and with social distancing in effect, this was a real challenge! This is where booking the appropriate moving trucks through companies such as Uhaul or Zipcar comes in handy, reducing the number of trips you have to make and condensing the entire process.
This also helps to keep family life organized, as you can free up the use of your own car for work and family needs, and still be available for the kids’ activities.
Thou Shalt Get Help!
Moving is hard, and moving in the middle of a pandemic is extra hard. Hence the need for extra helping hands, which you can get from companies such as TaskRabbit, where you can get help with moving by vetted individuals right in your area.
As a working mom and a working parent in general, this is so important as time is such a precious commodity.
Thou Shalt Plan Ahead
If you can, allow yourself a week, or at least a couple of days between closing and moving in, especially if you’re both selling and buying at the same time. This will give you time to schedule any work that needs to get done before your kids start baptizing the new walls or experimenting with hammers and other construction tools.
In addition, don’t forget to plan ahead for mail transfer services, as well as to change your utility and phone services. Trust me, there is nothing like spending hours on the phone with your utility company as the kids are complaining non-stop about the lack of wifi in the house…
Thou Shalt Get Connected!
Just because you’re moving doesn’t mean life has to stop, which means work, emails, and kids’ cartoons still go on. Which also means you need to get connected at your new place, especially if you’re in the middle of a pandemic with nowhere else to go, and you’re also working from home…
This is where companies such as Verizon or AT&T for instance, can help in establishing your new or continuing connection, before your boss realizes you’ve missed about 100 emails and your kids go on a strike because they now have to use their imagination…
Thou Shalt Get organized
Organization, organization, organization! This seems to be the keyword when moving, especially when you cannot locate your toothbrush for a couple of days or have to hunt around for soap. It happens…
Instead of struggling to fit all the kids’ socks into one corner of a drawer, consider investing in organization essentials, such as shelving tools, closet accessories, and decorative storage from places such as The Container Store for example.
Thou Shalt Abort the Diet
The first few days after moving are hard enough without having to watch your waistline. Those are official non-diet days, during which services like GrubHub and HelloFresh delivering food or ingredients to your door are more than welcome. Besides, the kids will thank you for the occasional Chick-Fil-A dinner delivery and being able to still have Taco Tuesday in the middle of unpacking boxes…
If you really insist on whipping out your grandmother’s favorite rice and beans recipe, then you can always order groceries through Amazon Prime for Whole Foods or Peapod for instance.
Thou Shalt Consider DIY
A new home also comes with new…projects. Whether they are small or big, these may require you to do some level of DIY work. We’ve recently spent more time than I would normally care for at the likes of Home Depot and Bed Bath & Beyond . I’m actually growing to enjoy home décor and renovations quite a bit, and my new favorite place to hang out is Hobby Lobby. For larger construction projects, my brother-in-law put me on to Build.com, which I cannot recommend enough.
If like myself you’re not anticipating much DIY work, think again, there’s always something to adjust, fix, or put to your own taste when you change homes. This is also a great opportunity to involve the little ones, and make them feel part of the process as they’re getting accustomed to their new space…
Thou Shalt Furniture Shop On a Budget
For those of you upsizing, you may need to shop for new furniture, which also means additional expenses on top of all the other expenditures you’ve already faced. However, I’m finding that there are ways to shop for quality furniture on a budget. Some of my favorite places to do so include Ashley Home Furniture and Raymour & Flanigan for example.
If you’re working from home, you can get affordable, quality office furniture at places such as OfficeFurniture.com.
Thou Shalt take a break!
Lat but not least, taking a break from the whole ordeal of moving, especially as a working mom, is absolutely crucial. This moving thing is not a matter of a few days, weeks or months. It’s a marathon that may take longer than expected, especially when tackling DIY home improvement projects or re-decorating a larger space.
Take breaks whenever you can, and build in a self-care routine as part of your everyday schedule so you don’t burn the candle on both ends. Order yourself some spa and skincare goodies from Sephora, Ulta, or Birchbox. Or chill out with a movie on Hulu or Netflix.
Yes, moving is a process, especially as a working mom. Yet, with a bit of advance preparation and your own take on my 10 commandments of moving as working moms, we can all do it…without too much of our sanity left behind.
What are your best tips to move efficiently as a working mom?
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