In the midst of all the talk about purpose, business success stories, happy entrepreneurial endings, and so on and so forth, it can be tempting to look down at your current career. As you stroll through the pages of Instagram, you may even be experiencing some serious symptoms of “career envy”, as you dream of being your own boss or waking up like Beyonce. That is, until reality hits you tenderly strokes your cheek as you roll out of bed on Monday morning and proceed to make it through your usual daily commute. Does this mean it’s virtually impossible to find fulfillment in the job you’ve got? Do you have to suffer through the ins and outs of your current job, waiting for the perfect career or business? Or are you destined to endlessly hustle towards your dream while constantly feeling dissatisfied? I would respectfully disagree…
I was there, in that dark place where I believed that unless I hit the perfect career jackpot, I would never find fulfillment. I know so many other working women who also were, and still are, there, dragging themselves in and outside of work, waiting for that elusive perfect opportunity and/or hustling to no end. Some are striving and building while they are waiting, while others are teetering on the edge of giving up. Yet, the missing piece we seldom consider is the one that encourages us to find fulfillment in our current careers and positions, even as we strive for more. As a matter of fact, it wasn’t until a fellow working woman and coach of mine taught me to strategize my approach to fulfillment that my entire career changed for the better.
If you are asking yourself this question: “How do I find fulfillment in a job or a career I don’t love or even like?”, here are three questions I challenge you to consider:
- How can you combine your gifts and your acquired abilities?
This is the one single question that changed the trajectory of my career. As a natural-born writer with a passion for gender diversity borne from being raised by a single working mother, and with degrees and a professional background in business and accounting, I believed the various parts of my experience were totally separate and incompatible, when in fact they were all aligned with my purpose. Fast forward a few years, I find fulfillment in writing about and teaching business, accounting and gender diversity. The various, and quite different parts of my experience are being combined with my natural gifts to serve the people and causes I most believe in.
What are your natural gifts and talents, and how can you combine them with the acquired abilities you’ve gathered through your career? You could use your ease to network to facilitate instrumental meetings in your area, for instance. If your project management skills have always been your strength, you could volunteer to manage a given project in or outside of your work. As a gifted speaker, you may be able to serve as an event presenter in your department or company. These are simple examples of combining your talents with your acquired knowledge and abilities, right where you are.
- How does your career/job help people?
I’ve learnt from experience and from talking to fellow working women that service is an extremely important component of the fulfillment factor at work. It gives your work a higher dimension, one that extends beyond deliverables and tasks, and creates a strong sense of engagement and community. Above all, service gives work meaning and impact. Unfortunately, many of us are missing this part in our careers or jobs, unless we’re saving lives or changing the world.
Can you consider how your job is helping others? If in doubt, could you start the conversation in your teams or departments? As an accountant for instance, you may not feel like your work impacts anyone. However, without accurate financial records and financial statements, the entire financial fabric of our society would be at risk of compromise and fraud, stripping investors, creditors and stakeholders of the trust needed to invest and grow our economy. As a hairdresser, your work is at the core of many women’s (and men’s) sense of self-esteem, community and belonging. So, let me ask you again, how does your job help people?
- How can you improve your life outside of work?
In many, if not most instances, our dissatisfaction with our work may be in direct relation with our general dissatisfaction about life, and vice-versa. It’s hard to be motivated at work when your home life is a wreck. Finding the strength to do great work is challenging when you feel like you’re failing as a parent at home. There are so many other examples of the correlation between life outside of work and life at work.
How can you improve your life outside of work? For you, it may be meeting more people, and having more fulfilling friendships and relationships. Or you may have to invest into family therapy and improve the atmosphere in your home. Maybe you need to forgive your parents for neglecting you as a child, so you can stop struggling to gain approval at work at the cost of your sanity and ineffectiveness. Let me ask you again, how can you improve your life outside of work, so your work life improves as well?
While we should all be striving for better, finding fulfillment in a career we don’t necessarily love is possible. It starts with a few hard but crucial questions…
Do you believe you can find fulfillment in a job you don’t love?
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