When it’s better not to speak ups work – Photo credit: happyblackwoman.com
“Tis better to be silent and thought a fool, than to speak and remove all doubt”. Abraham Lincoln
A lot has been said about the importance of women speaking up at work, as well as the numerous obstacles they face, especially for women of color, when trying to do so. There are many biases and obstacles against female employees speaking up in the workplace, from the proverbial “manterruptions” to the simple fact society is not yet accustomed to women leading and contributing significantly at work. Yet, part of being effective and successful at work, is also knowing when to not speak up.
In today’s extremely political workplace, speaking up is crucial. Yet distinguishing between when to express one’s opinion and when to reserve them for a more appropriate time or occasion, can also be just as important. Here are 5 situations when you should consider whether not speaking up may actually work to your advantage:
- When you need to listen: Learning is more effectively done by listening than talking. Take advantage of mentoring opportunities, or occasions when constructive criticism and advice is offered to you to learn and position yourself at work. Rather than talking, absorb the newfound knowledge and take precious notes!
- When you don’t need to be right: You don’t always need to be right, at work or in life. Mistakes happen, and part of managing them is owning up to your errors and committing not to repeat them. In these instances, the less you say to justify yourself, and the more you do to fix the problem, the more reliable and trustworthy you come across as!
- When you’re being too competitive: Healthy comparisons and competition can help you better your performance. However, trying to one-up a co-worker and undermine their performance so yours looks better, is always a bad move. Focus on success, yours and everyone else’s. Congratulate your peers and management on their achievements, and celebrate others’ successes!
- When you’re biting on more than you can chew: Under-promise, and over-deliver, should always be your mantra. Do not bite on more than you can chew at work, especially when your performance evaluation heavily depends on it. Be realistic, assess your deadlines and only speak up to offer promises you can actually deliver. Otherwise, silence is golden…
- When you need to wash your mouth with soap: While casual swearing may be OK in certain office environments, keep your language clean as much as you can! In doubt, keep civil! You never know what can come back to haunt you in the future, so keep it clean and cool…
When do you think it’s better to keep quiet at work?
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