Our Woman of Impact feature presents women who are breaking barriers in their careers, businesses and lives. These women are inspiring us to do our best work and live our best lives. Today’s feature focuses on HR Business Partner and Career Strategist Dorianne StFleur.
I’ve been inspired by Dorianne’s work and her contribution to women’s careers. Dorianne is a career coach & salary strategist for women in Corporate America. She helps women leverage their unique strengths to increase their income and climb the corporate ladder, without sacrificing their impact. Dorianne is a sought-after speaker, writer and HR expert and her work has been featured in many online publications, such as Black Enterprise, BuzzFeed, Forbes, Huffington Post and The Muse. To learn more about Dorianne, head over to yourcareergirl.com.
Hi Dorianne!Tell us a bit about yourself and what you do.
I’m an HR Business Partner, and I’ve been in HR since 2010, both in Finance and Technology. Currently, I’m in Advertising Technology. Basically, I do everything after someone is hired, from performance and talent management, to compensation, career development topics, or if you’re having an issue with your boss, or co-workers, etc. My role is to partner with the employee and manager as well.
I’m also a Career Strategist, and Executive Coach. I help women who are trying to tap into, and align their purpose with their career. I give them the tools and resources they need to have the career of their dreams. We spend so much time at work, and to the extent we can do something that is fulfilling during that time, that is my goal.
What inspired you to go into HR?
That is a funny story. I started my career in Operations, for about five years. I got to a point where I was doing well, yet wanted to do something different. I was a manager, I was sent to Salt Lake City, Utah with my team, and got to do so many amazing things. It was great, but it wasn’t something that was utilizing all my skills. I wanted to go to school for Psychology originally.
In talking to my manager, and being in tune with my strengths and purpose, I had taken some courses at New York University on “Intro to Management”. It just really piqued my interest. I knew nothing of HR before. After taking that course, I realized there’s a lot of strategy, relationships, coaching, etc involved in HR. Through internal mobility within the same company, I was able to transfer to a generalist position on the HR team. Once I got there, I realized this was what I wanted to be doing. I was doing a lot of things to help employees while developing and honing my own skills. Since then, I’ve been in HR. It’s a place I really enjoy and continue to grow in.
How about starting your own business? Did you always want to have your own business, or did your current career inspire you?
My career definitely inspired my business. I’d never thought of myself as being an entrepreneur. I was never one of those people who grew up knowing I was going to own my business. I was totally fine having a 9-to-5, as long as it was something I enjoyed doing.
Luckily for me, I’d mostly been in situations where I’d done well, been promoted and got all the recognition. Friends and family would ask me for advice. They would ask me to write their resumes, help them with mock interviews, etc. It just organically happened, and about a year and a half ago, I decided to make it official and turn it into a business where I’d be strategic about the people I’m helping and have a broader reach. That’s how Your Career Girl was born.
How do you find the time and energy to balance your career and business, as well as being a mom?
It’s very challenging. I have really long days. I wake up at 5 or 5:30am, my husband and I tag team to get my daughter ready in the morning. My husband’s schedule is flexible, so he can do pick-ups and drop-offs, as well as any emergency. I’m in the City at work, so we just make it work.
In the evenings, I spend time with my family, and then late nights, I’m working. I’ve gotten a lot better at prioritizing things. During the week, it’s basically work and business time, but on the weekends, it’s family time, and I’m always doing something with my family and spending one-on-one time with my daughter. I don’t have it down to a science, some things do fall through the cracks. Some weeks I do really well with self-care, other weeks I don’t. It’s a give and take, and I’m more about work-life integration anyways. It really just depends.
As a woman of color, what challenges would you say you face in your career and business?
In the technology space I’m in right now, the biggest obstacle I’m having is having that support network. Looking around to see people that look like you is challenging, especially in the tech industry. Being able to look at senior management and not seeing Black women or women of color who look like you can be really daunting.
Sometimes, it’s really discouraging, as you ask yourself if there’s really room for you to grow, and if you can go to the next level. This is why I share all these inspirational and motivational tools with my client base, because I know it can be difficult when you don’t see people who look like you, or when you don’t have that support system, or when there is not a group of women at your work that you can go have lunch with and bounce things off of.
In my business, I’m happy to say that there are so many other women of color who are entrepreneurs. There are so many women out there trying to empower others and use their gifts to build businesses. What I do find is that it’s definitely harder to get that traction. When I think of top career coaches and top career sites, they’re mostly run by white women. When I think about Black women who have just as great things to say if not better, they don’t have the visibility, the network, or funding.
Where do you see yourself in the next 5 to 10 years?
By then, hopefully I’ll have one or two more children (laughs). My goal is also to see Your Career Girl expand to such a level that it’s not feasible for me to have my 9-to-5. I greatly enjoy my job, but I also can see myself devoting my time to Your Career Girl, speaking on stage impacting thousands and thousands of women all over the world.
I have ideas for apps, and a lot of things that can bring about this idea of career development to optimal levels. I’m thinking of really scaling and growing my business in the next 5 to 10 years.
What resources or tools do you go to help you be your most productive?
For productivity and efficiency, I read a lot of articles. I also listen to a lot of podcasts, but they tend to pile up. I use Medium a lot, as well as Feedly. I’m on the Muse a lot as well, which provides lots of tips on career management.
I’m also a believer in “Less is More”. I try to pare things down and tend to edit my to-do list down, and find what I can focus on for better impact. I’m also flexible, and am fluid about the tools I use.
What is the biggest mistake you see women make in the workplace?
Women’s biggest mistake in the workplace, is not negotiating. Not just money, but not negotiating for work arrangements, for more vacation days, for transition when coming back from maternity leave. Of course, for salary as well. We tend to say ok to a lot, while men will ask why when they’re offered anything, and negotiate for themselves for just about everything.
Most of the time, women are not asking the right questions and negotiating for themselves. They end up leaving a lot of money and benefits on the table.
I remember after my maternity leave, I was determined to breast-feed for at least six months. I made sure I blocked off my schedule for that. I was not going to be one of these people who did not do that because of other pressures. It’s harder for us to set those boundaries, especially for women of color.
What advice would you give your 20 year-old self?
I’d definitely say to be confident. The worst they can say is no. There are so many things I could have done when I think about how many opportunities I missed out on, how many networking events I didn’t go to, how many things I didn’t raise my hand for. I was worried I didn’t look the part or didn’t’ have any experience, or other negative talk that would go on in my head. It still happens, but I’m now able to shoot down the negativity, and talk back to myself. I’d love to have told my 20-year old self: “You’ve got this! Go in there, own the room, fake it ‘til you make it!”
What would you recommend for something who would want to follow the same path as you?
You have to be really clear on your why. Why do you want to be in HR? Why do you want to start your business? I know my why, so I’m able to power through at work and in my business when it gets tough.
Whatever you want to do in your career, the first thing I recommend to my clients, is: “You need to know why this is something that’s important to you”. Not just a surface reason, but what’s really at the core. When you’re really clear about it, then you’ll know whether it’s something you really want to do, or if it’s something other people want for you. You’ll also be able to power through when times get tough.
What music do you have on repeat these days?
Right now, I’m listening to a lot of gospel. I also listen to a lot of Beyonce, R&B, and pop in general.
What services do you offer and where can we find you?
You can find me at yourcareergirl.com. I offer one-time strategy sessions, as well as ongoing private one-on-one coaching. I also offer online courses, and I also have a free Facebook accountability group, called the Career Success Circle, where we motivate each other and setting goals to take our careers to the next level.
Thank you Dorianne for all these precious gems! For more info on Dorianne, please head to yourcareergirl.com!
To Your Success,
The Corporate Sister
